Love is when your wiring impulsively feels the need to have something. It objectifies whatever it is after. Not that humans aren't objects already!!! [grin]
Apparently lots of people find comments like that insensitive. However, if people are something other than objects, I fail to see what else they could be. Sure, they have needs, but so does my car.
Naturally, when you want something, this makes the person with said something have a tendency to up its price (their body, for example). It's economics.
Therefore, instead of falling in love, and being dependent on someone else, invest the majority of your resources into yourself, in order to upgrade your own demand.
Love is about wanting. If someone has what they want secured, they will quickly lose interest in it because it is no longer in demand (it has lost value).
So, the key to love is basically to make a non abusive dominance bond. It's like empire building. Even though you have control (interest) of your populace, you don't want to destroy your populace because it is their demand for you that makes you valuable to begin with. Empires also don't fall in love with their populace, or else they are destroyed by their populace; a reasonable level of control is necessary. If someone becomes a terrorist, they are ejected from the kingdom. Likewise, lovers will inevitably become unfavorable, and need to be improved.
Therefore, the key to falling in love is to not do so with any single person, and have a queue of people to fall in love with. Better yet, don't fall in love at all [thumbup] . Specific people are there in a person's life to meet specific needs: mate, talker, confidant, etc. Just replace the positions as needed. You can't expect one person to be perfect enough to fulfill everything. I've never understood why people feel the need to have this super special "soul mate". Heck, if one isn't cutting it, have multiple. I won't judge (unless someone gets an STD, in which case I care, because that is messing up my own mating pool).
tldr; I feel like throwing up every time someone says the word "love". Just don't use abstract terms that don't mean anything specific. The whole freaking point of language is to have a standard interface for the transference of ideas. Besides, relationships are transactional in nature, and valuing giving over taking, all the time, is bound to make someone get burned.
If all brains are made roughly the same, then why do I perceive through my own? What special characteristic places me in this skull?
I do not move throughout the world. The engines do not move the ship, but the universe.
The law of synonyms: my experience is synonymous with my brain, I change my experience to change my brain. so I change the physical with my thoughts.